What do I look for in a Guy?

When people ask me if I am in a relationship right now and I tell them no they normally ask me “why not?” and I answer back “why not, why not?”


Is it a requirement to be in a relationship? I don’t know but people seemed surprised I’m not in one. Well, I HAD BEEN but not anymore. LOL. And I don’t think I will be in the next couple of, err… years.

Yep. I am single and I am wholefully embracing it. Hurray for freedom!

I am not really in a hurry, which people find surprising. They often tell me I should get married because time is running (you know – the race against the so-called biological clock). But I’ve always had this perception on life – whatever comes then that’s it - If it comes, thank God. If not, then still, thank God. After all, He knows what is best for me. And whatever plans he has for me, so be it. He has reasons and I won’t question it anymore because as I have experienced they are often blessings in disguise.

My last relationship (not that I had many), ended up quite bad – very. As I’ve said before in one of my previous blogs from my Multiply, it was like one of those bad endings from a B-movie that makes you go “Huh? WTF just happened? That’s it? What a total waste of my money!” after watching it.

It was a 3-year relationship and truthfully I do not remember anything about it anymore. All I know is that I am more than happy to be where I am right now.

For people who are interested to know the story, I can write the whole damn thing here but what’s the point anyway? It’s done and finished. I’ve moved on. Besides, I’m sure every now & then it will be a point of reference. I haven’t written blogs in such a long time and now they’re pouring out like waterfalls from my brain. LOL. But if you’re insistent, you can find some entries I’ve written during the break-up in my Multiply and if you want I can send you the email trail of the documentary. LOL.

Anyways, I’ve always gotten questions on what do I look for in a guy. Well, normally guys ask me this – those that are obviously phishing for information. C’mon! I wish they use better strategies. Sheesh.

But, for the benefit of fun, here, I’m giving the generally vague list of what I do look for in a guy.

1. Must be a good conversationalist. I talk a lot. Because I have a lot of interests. And because I find myself interested in almost everything. So I need someone I can carry a good conversation with. Please don’t use too much cheesy and lame pick-up lines. It doesn’t really work on me. Lol.

2. Must have a good sense of humor (at least). I laugh a lot and I am a relatively happy person. And I make fun on almost anything I can find. We all need to be happy so we can forget all our worries. If you’re stuck up then sorry, we won’t work. I want someone who knows how to laugh and be silly at a point. I think it’s important that sometimes, we can turn the sad things in life into happy ones.

3. Have good principles in life. Well, I know I have so most probably I want someone who has too. They should be able to stand by what they believe in. As the saying goes, walk the talk. Someone should have goals in life, things they want to achieve in their lifetime. And somehow, they should try to reach it.

4. Knows how to be like a man and act like one. Well, it’s self-explanatory. Of course I would like someone who I can depend on. If I’m much stronger and I’m the one who’ll carry the relationship then I don’t need extra baggage in my life. I have a lot to deal with already so if the guy is just going to be a burden, then never mind.

5. Be yourself. Well, I think the most important thing is how a person looks at himself. He should be confident enough but not cocky. Has a better self-esteem for him. I don’t mind imperfections because no one is perfect and I don’t want a perfect guy. But there should be room for change and compromise.

It’s actually hard to enumerate what qualities I look for in a guy. Some say that there should be “magic”, “spark” and all the other electrical impulses that go through our bodies and mind. But as I have said, I’m not in a hurry. And I don’t mind really. I would rather prefer companionship right now. Friends. And again, I leave it all up to Him.

So, if you think you qualify with the above requirements then send me your resume and let’s see what happens. LOL.

PS. Since I started a list of what I look for in a guy, maybe I should also enumerate what I don’t like. Now that would be fun because I’m sure it’ll be much easier. LOL.

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mood:  pissed. The printer is not doing what it’s supposed to be doing - which is printing. Grrr.

The Typhoon that was Ondoy

It was scary. It was depressing. It was a tragedy I don’t think anyone can forget.


Last September 26, Typhoon Ondoy hit Metro Manila and made it into a big swimming pool – with mud, vehicles, houses and people that seem like floaters in the water. It was not a very lovely picture. No one was spared – no one was poor nor rich – everyone was equally whipped by nature’s wrath. Nobody was prepared. No one expected it to be like this.

The sad images of the destruction brought by the typhoon actually kept repeating in my mind. I really couldn’t imagine that this has happened.

The events had been so fast and didn’t allow people to react. At a moment, it seemed like it was just the regular heavy rainfall but suddenly, places started to flood and that is when reality began to sink in – that this is no ordinary heavy rainfall.

People started to panic and worry for their loved ones who were in the areas that shouldered most of the disaster. In our office, some didn’t even get to go home.

I live in Guadalupe now. But I used to live in Cainta, by the boundaries of Marikina & Cainta. And I couldn’t imagine how or what would I have done if I had been caught there. Again, I reflect and I tell myself, yes, it had been a blessing that I was able to get out of the reasons that tie me to that place. I was once again reminded that there was a reason behind the events that happened last March. And this was one of it.

Unfortunately, some of my friends had to experience the tragedy. But thank God they are safe now. They got out of time and it was a relief to know that they are okay.

My relatives also live in Cainta – my grandma, my mom, my three brothers, my aunt and my cousins. I had my share of paranoia when I didn’t have any news about them. I had been trying to contact them but phones are dead. I just prayed that they were okay and safe and alive.

So far, they were and again, I praise God for it. I only wish I can say this to all those people who had been affected. Many have lost their loved ones and some have even witnessed it before their very eyes.

Perhaps the next reality that everybody would be facing, especially those who have lost their homes, their livelihoods, their family members and friends is how would they start over? Where and how are they going to start living again?

It seems hard. It’s painful. It seems impossible. But the bible tells us,

"Be strong and courageous, do not be afraid or tremble at them, for the LORD your God is the one who goes with you. He will not fail you or forsake you."– Deuteronomy 31:6

Let us all have faith in Him. Let us pray and keep on believing in Him. Where there is life there is still hope. We should all try to help each other recover what had been lost and try to rebuild what had been destroyed. Now is the time to care and act.

I don’t want to post any video of the tragedy here. I think everybody has had their fill of watching it over and over again on TV, in the internet and other video devices. I know I did. I can't take them out of my head. And I think everybody is aware of what has transpired the past two days. Instead of spending our time replaying the events, let us try to think of ways on how we can reach out and help our fellow citizens. I believe that is where we should all start – start helping the others start over.

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mood: I am symphatizing to those who had been affected by Ondoy. My prayers go to all of you.

Rainy September 26 Saturday

I woke up to a quite rainy day. Well, it had been raining since last night and truthfully I don’t want to remember that it’s raining because it only makes me remember that somebody stole my Fibrella folding umbrella. Yep. Someone stole it. I left it by the garage of my boarding house last Wednesday night to dry and when I woke up the next morning it’s gone!
I was actually pissed because I thought someone (pardon my accusations) from my housemates used it. That was probably the most expensive umbrella I have ever bought and I only bought it because of its design – it donned cat prints. And here is what’s left of it.

the umbrella cover

You see I have 4 umbrellas – a folding one which I bring everywhere I go, just in case, you know, it rains (I’m always prepared), a mini kid umbrella which I keep in the office, a medium-sized one which is not actually mine but a friend’s . She lent it to me when it suddenly rained when I visited her because I didn’t have my folding umbrella then yet (I should return it when we see each other again) and a giant one – a give-away from Unionbank – which I normally use for super, heavy, typhoon rainy days. I use my folding umbrella for uncalled, unexpected rainfall and when it’s raining very hard I leave it at home and use the giant one instead (OC-ness.lol). I hate losing stuff (because I am very careful with my things) so you don’t know how pissed off I am when I couldn’t find my umbrella. What’s mind-boggling is how was it gone? Did someone enter our gate and took it? And of all the umbrellas there why is it have to be mine? WAH! That’s my favorite umbrella! (yes, because it had cat prints.LOL).

The umbrella didn’t come out this morning when I asked my landlady. Even if I want to, I can’t do anything about it. So instead of stressing myself on it, may the one who took my umbrella be dry and safe from the rain. He/She probably took it because she can’t afford to buy one so I’ll just pretend that I gave it to her/him as a gift. If anyone sees another one like it, do inform me so I can buy again. LOL. I hope I can find another one with the same design. * sigh. So, for today, I brought the giant one since it is raining hard as there is a typhoon according to the news.

Honestly speaking, I do not have any idea what is happening outside of the office anymore. I just hear it from people I talk to and my friends. Sounds weird? Yeah. I don’t get a chance to watch TV anymore or listen to the radio - I don’t even know what TV is anymore! LOL. I am inside the office most of the time and just go out when it’s time to go home. Of course in the office, there is no TV and what we often hear are pre-recorded volumes of company jingle and soundtracks played a million times within the day. I think I’ve learned to subconsciously not listen to it anymore. When I reach home, I go directly to sleep. That’s all. LOL. That’s how life for me is now – work & home. Nothing much to do and spend my time with.

So I just learned that there is a typhoon today because everybody is talking about it. I don’t really mind. I live near my workplace. Just one bus ride away. And if I need to walk in flood, it’s okay - I wear slippers to work. LOL. As I’ve said, I’m OC and I am, most of the time, prepared. Hehe.

my pink hoodie

A friend of mine actually texted me – it’s Saturday and you’re in the mall? I said yes. I work Saturdays and I work for a mall. So that probably answers most of the questions - malls operate 7 days a week and even holidays. Again, I don’t really mind. I’d rather have work than be a bum because I hate idle moments. Besides I love what I’m doing and I have no other things to do and spend my time with – yet. Hehe.

Everybody’s quite uneasy, as the rain, they said, hasn’t stopped since last night (I’m not sure though). And there are news of areas flooded already. My boss actually said to me that after we finish doing what we needed to do for his meeting on Tuesday, I go home already because it would be hard to catch a ride. Hehe. Well, HR hasn’t announced anything yet if ever we go home early today, would it be credited as full day? I heard it would be undertime which would be quite unfair because it wasn’t our fault there is a typhoon. Hmph!

Anyways, my boss suddenly gave me a bar of chocolate Crunch before leaving – nomnomnom. I dunno why but Thank You sir! I love chocolates!

for the kid in you

nomnomnom

My boss left already and said he will TRY to get home. He also gave me permission to leave early. How nice! But I don’t think I’ll be able to get home anyway since I heard the vehicles aren’t moving. So instead of getting wet, I’ll just stay here a bit. Much safer. That’s why I started blogging instead. I don’t want to start doing anything since I wouldn’t be able to finish it anyway. Oh well. I’ll go out for a while and see what’s happening. LOL. Break time!

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♥ PS.
My boss called me a while ago telling me to go home already since the weather is so bad. (Sweet huh? Hehe). He told me to text him when I get home. My co-workers said how lucky I am I can go home already (and how nice my boss is. hehe). But even if I go now, would I be able to get home? I also need to fetch my 2 friends because I told them to stay with me for tonight. Their house had been flooded and they needed to evacuate for a while. The water in their house is by the waist already. Gosh! I hope the typhoon passes and that it doesn't cause too much trouble and damage. Stay Safe everyone!


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mood: wet. i hope i don't need snorkels when i go home.